Question 4 of #PrimaryRocks on Monday 20th March looked at how to build resilience in children. To begin with, I think it is important to define the term resilience:
Resilience: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.
This is a quality that everybody needs but also a quality that is very difficult to build. In this way it is very similar to go-karting: push too far or drive too close to the limit and you tip over the edge; don’t push far enough and you always stay in your comfort zone not making as much progress as you could. The ideal is finding that Goldilocks sweet spot.
Some parents do not like their child to be pushed out of their comfort zone and they try to protect their child from all things bad. However, this is setting their children up for a grand fall later in life.
Life is hard.
We are introduced into the world and the first thing we experience is having our skulls squashed in order to travel the birth canal. We come out crying and but most of us turn out OK in the end! Parents and schools cannot shield children from harm all of their lives and so we should develop their resilience.
A lot of this resilience should be taking place in the home but here are some ideas that can help build resilience in your school:
We need to think more like Iain Dowie, the ex-footballer and ex-manager, who coined the word bouncebackability to describe his team’s performance. That’s what we need to instil in our children and, just as importantly, develop in ourselves.
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